I want her body shape
A few weeks ago I mentioned I was celebrating my friends bachelorette party. We had a wonderful time together and although we are all beautiful and look great I couldn’t help but to wonder where to I compare with these girls. As we got undress to put on our pole dancing attire I realized that the shape of my body is not the same, which means I no longer look like I did prior to pregnancy. All of this happened prior to me falling in love again.
I remember the days when I could put on anything and look good. I didn’t really have to worry about what size is this, or will it fit or, does it look right on my body type. I liked it, I bought it, I wore it and felt good about it. But now I find myself working very hard to look as good as I did before with my postpartum body shape. To be honest there is really nothing wrong with the way I look, but in my own head the “what I use to look like” along wit the “what everyone else looks like now” was clouding the beautiful body that I have now. What is a girl to do?
Well I did a few things. Along with my constant search for what fits my current shape as oppose to my previous shape I wear spanx. Spanx gives me a seamless look underneath my clothes. It get’s rid of the bumps here and the hangovers there. I love my spanx. I will not go to the store without some form of spanx on. Another step that I have done was take the time to do my hair and make-up. Growing up I was always told as long as your hear looks good you look good, and right now I need to feel and look good so along with doing my hair I do my make up. Last but not least, what really nailed it for me was someone being attracted to me. Now don’t get me wrong the only guy that needs to be attracted to me is hubby, but you know he’s your husband. While out with my girl, with my outfit that complimented my current shape, make up, and my hair done, I felt great. My confidence soar through the roof, which made guys want to talk to me. This gave me an extra boost of confidence and allowed me to realize there is a body shape for everyone.
Now I’m not saying that because this guy was attracted to me I felt good, no not at all. I strongly believe in feeling good from the inside and when other’s are attracted to you that is just the icing on the cake. Sometimes we can’t look like we did pre-pregnancy or even 5 years ago (oh how good I looked in college), but it doesn’t mean we can’t look good now. The worst thing we can do to ourselves is to compare our body to the bodies of others. We need to be happy with what we have, work with it, and then work it.
Who have you compared yourself to lately? What is the one thing you can do today so you can feel good about your body?
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I recently returned to dance classes since having Morgan. I never thought I would be comparing myself to others but I especially found myself comparing my body to the other young moms in the group. I didn’t compare size, but stretch marks! I’m fine with my size/shape but I have stretch marks on my sides. Now that beach season is upon us I want a one piece or tankini but hubby thinks I should stick with the two piece. The marks are only only my sides but I HATE them because they weren’t there “before”. Well, I’m still trying to get over it and I’ve learned to call them “war scars” rather than stretch marks, lol! You’re right…What’s a girl to do?!!
Okay I so could have written this post. LONG LIVE SPANX – LOL. I have been increasingly upset lately over how my body is shaped now. Why I’m not at my pre-pregnancy weight just shy of 5 lbs, the weight doesn’t really bother me. Its the shape of my belly – the more weight I lose the more pregnant my stomach looks.
For example if I was a celebrity, I would be all over the tabloids with bump reports. I think at least once a week people ask/assume I’m pregnant. ITS SO ANNOYING. Makes me want to run to the nearest plastic surgeon.
I’m hoping I just need to work out my abs to get rid of it – but who knows. I hate it. I know you are right about feeling good in your skin and I am with everything else. I too take extra effort and wear makeup and get my hair done it makes the world of difference. The stomach though is driving me crazy.
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Okay I so could have written this post. LONG LIVE SPANX – LOL. I have been increasingly upset lately over how my body is shaped now. Why I’m not at my pre-pregnancy weight just shy of 5 lbs, the weight doesn’t really bother me. Its the shape of my belly – the more weight I lose the more pregnant my stomach looks.
For example if I was a celebrity, I would be all over the tabloids with bump reports. I think at least once a week people ask/assume I’m pregnant. ITS SO ANNOYING. Makes me want to run to the nearest plastic surgeon.
I’m hoping I just need to work out my abs to get rid of it – but who knows. I hate it. I know you are right about feeling good in your skin and I am with everything else. I too take extra effort and wear makeup and get my hair done it makes the world of difference. The stomach though is driving me crazy.
Ladies I can so relate to what you guys are saying. Not simply because I wrote this post but I too seem to can’t get rid of this belly bump. Sometimes I wonder if it’s even worth trying to lose weight (of course it is). That is exactly why I love spanx so much. And as far as stretch marks go Tiffany, I completely understand. The stretch mark I had on my side just got longer and I have a little bit on my tummy. I don’t think I will ever wear a two piece again, but I do find some hot one pieces that I will be able to look good in when I lose the weight. Thanks for commenting ladies!!!
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Hi Ladies,
Seriously, I can relate. I find myself taking “sneak” peeks at ladies and secretly wishing that I had the “perfect” body, whatever that means. I’ve always had body image issues since very young. I’m short and very petite, and the comments of “you look like a kid”, “you’re so skinny”, my daughter making a comment about my boobs, etc etc has not helped me to have a positive body image. On top of that, I have this huge belly that extends way over my pants when I sit down and it won’t go away.
What can I do today to make me feel good about my body? Well, I am on a “diet” to gain weight, hopefully in the right places and I joined a gym last year to tone, develop more muscle mass, and hopefully reduce my belly. By becoming healthier, actively being sexy for my hubby, dressing and portraying myself in a becoming way, realizing that everyone is different and the belly is our badge of motherhood, and accepting me for me helps me to feel good about my body.
P.S. It does boost my confidence level and confirms me when guys (in addition to my husband) show interest in me.
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For the most part, I’m digging my body lately. I just want my cellulite gone (still have it, dang it) and my stomach flat (no matter how thin I get, it’s always there). I think it’ll get there but I’ve hit a road bump lately with a stupid uterus and ovaries that I want to punch in their stupid uterus and ovaries face, but I’ll be better within the next month and after I recover, we’ll see if I can’t get that stomach a little flatter.
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Gosh, I am now on my 4th pregnancy and it is CRAZY how our bodies change and age. I get grossed out watching my boobs and my butt sag. But then I remember that I am a mother of 3 (going on 4) wonderful children and there are sacrifices we have to make as moms. I sometimes envy those who can afford the treatments and the surgeries to keep their bodies looking young. But when it comes down to it, I may never be there, so I need to come to a place where I love an accept myself in spite of the changes. I see woman who obsess over their bodies. I see woman who are insecure and hurting because of being overweight. I don’t want to get stuck in that mindset. It comes down to attitude. Stay positive about yourself and you will learn to love yourself.
I also wanted to say a quick thank you for commenting on my blog and sharing about my baby poop situation. I so appreciate having your support.
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DAWN
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I can relate so well. My shape is totally different, and I still have that little “pooch” belly.
I’ve always wanted to try spanx. I’ve heard great things about it!
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I like spanx but with Georgia heat it is not happening in the summer. I still have a way to go before I am happy with my body but it didnt get this way overnight so I am not stressing about it. I love myself first and the body shape and changes come with that self love. I really like that photo – and who knew men wanted a size 12?
Thankfully something that shows women what men really want them to look like. The models are all too thin. Size 8 to 16 is good, 12 is dead on.